- Published on Tuesday, 23 April 2013 14:40
- Written by Donna Mazzitelli
More than once in my life thus far I've done healing work of one kind or another. In my 30s I worked with a traditional therapist. In more recent years, I've worked with people who have helped me look at past and present events and circumstances from a more integrated approach involving not only the mind, but also the body, essence, and energetics of what's taken place. Throughout all of this work, I've learned some wonderful techniques to care for myself and heal old wounds.
One technique that I've used to address childhood issues, including unmet needs and painful messages from others, has been to engage in conversations with a younger version of me. Oftentimes, that has been me as a child of about 7 to 10 years old. She seemed to experience some big messages that she wasn't good enough in some way--that something was missing or that she was doing too much of something else. The bottom line was that she just wasn't OK as she was. Something needed to be fixed, changed, or eliminated.
I can't go back and change the past, nor would I want to. The past is a part of my life experience, and in the final analysis, it has served me well. But those "blips" on the screen, where I've gotten hung up momentarily from past messaging or experiences, need to be addressed so I don't have to remain stuck. Communicating with my younger self has helped me comfort her and even heal some of that past pain. I've communicated with her in both visualizations and in writing.
Because I love words so much, being able to communicate with her in writing has been invaluable. One process I've used is to hold a Q&A session with her. I ask the questions in writing with my dominant hand--the one I normally write with--and then allow her to answer, using my other hand. It's amazing what comes out of such an exchange. I often read things I never consciously thought about!
The other practice I've used is to write a letter to her--my adult self shares with my younger self thoughts and feelings of healing. For instance, I can now be a parent to my younger self and say the things to her that I wish I'd heard as a child. By writing them to her, I can read them any time I need a reminder of who I truly am at my core. I understand now that my over-exuberance at times represented my passion for life and my desire for big experiences. Having the adult me share that knowing with the misunderstood enthusiastic girl I once was lets her know she was truly OK. It also reminds me to let that part of me show through now in my life. Because I have the gift of some aged wisdom (at least I like to think I do) I can remind myself that my days of wild abandon--like driving my car at 100 MPH--need to stay in the past. I can be exuberant and passionate in much safer ways today.
I invite you to find ways to communicate with your younger self. If you want to even take it a step further, communicate with your future self and let her know what's coming for her because of the wonderful life you're creating for yourself now.
My upcoming workshop with Jan Haas will be a great venue for writing those letters. This Friday evening, April 26th, from 6:30 to 9PM we will explore the various ways we can share our written wisdom with others. You may want to express it to someone else, but it's very possible that the one who needs to hear from you most is YOU. Please visit here to sign up today. We're even offering a discount to you and a friend when you come together.